"Fat shaming," as found in Urban Dictionary, is a term for the act of bullying someone for being fat, or telling someone who's fat that she's lazy, disgusting, and worthless because she's fat. It's whatever that implies or directly says that a person isn't "good enough" when she's round, and when "fat" is used as an insult.
Here are the things you say (or hear) that are actually considered fat shaming. If you want to spread the love, share this and help educate more people.
1. "Eww, taba niya."
Really, of all the things that could disgust you about a person, it's her fat? That's just plain shallow. Because honestly, so what if she is? What's that got to do with you?
2. "You, fat? Di kaya! You're beautiful!"
Since when was "beautiful" exclusive only to the skinny? Okay, fine, fashion and diet ads may be to blame for this one, but who said YOU have to keep believing them? A fat person can be beautiful, too. Remember that.
3. "Don't ever say you're fat."
Why not, if it's true? Someone skinny can call herself skinny, the same way someone blonde can say she's blonde, or someone short can say she's short. We've associated "fat" to something negative that we have forgotten that it should be a neutral word, especially if the person is healthy and happy.
4. "OMG! She looks good now that she lost weight."
You mean, she looks conventionally and acceptably good for the standards of society now, right?
5. "I can't believe she's wearing that when she's so fat."
It could be a cropped top, a bodycon dress, a pair of short shorts, or whatever that's not black. Look, those kinds of clothes aren't just for thin figures. That's why they come in medium and large sizes, too! Stop forcing someone to feel bad about herself.
6. "You'll feel amazing when you lose weight!"
Which can be true if a person really wants to lose weight and has an ideal weight and all that. But being thin or fit isn't everything, and it doesn't guarantee that a person will feel happy. There are skinny and fit girls out there who still loathe their bodies and are incredibly uncomfortable with themselves! So quit insisting that a person has to lose weight to feel good about herself. If you want your friend to feel amazing, just tell her that she is!
This story originally appeared on Cosmo.ph
Minor edits have been made by the Stylebible.ph editors.