It’s almost 2021, and yet some people still feel the need to comment on other people’s personal lives. Case in point: some insensitive netizens’ unsolicited advice for Heart Evangelista, which led the actress to recount the traumatizing period in her life when she lost her unborn twins to miscarriage.
It was roughly a week ago when Heart posted an OOTD shot of herself in Paris clad in a sheer black Jinggay Serag ensemble, which was naturally met with many compliments from her followers. However, one random comment in particular did not sit well with the style star. It read, “You need a baby in your life.”
Heart handled the thoughtless remark with grace and simply replied, “God is all you need and everything else is a bonus.”
Unfortunately, some netizens couldn’t simply leave the conversation at that. Another user replied, “You need a bonus then. Badly,” which provoked the actress to further address the comment. “I’m too blessed, my love. Too shy to ask more from God. If He gives me—a big thank you.” She then adds, “Whatever it is dear, thank you for your concern but this bittersweet comment of yours is inappropriate.”
Heart, who suffered from a heartbreaking miscarriage two years ago, is still reeling from the tragic loss of her unborn children. Feeling emotional over the uncalled-for exchange that happened on her Instagram, the actress left a lengthy comment on the thread in addition to her previous replies, recalling her past miscarriage as “the most traumatizing feeling.”
She wrote, “Having a miscarriage is the most traumatizing feeling. I carried my twins four months after because my doctor wanted me to naturally go through the process. It was the most horrible feeling thinking maybe God can bring them back to me, or me thinking am I not a good person for this to happen.
“Having babies is for sure a blessing or just actually being able to feel that you can love someone even if you haven’t met them. I had a stroller, a baby room, and a name. My babies already had a life prepared for them.
“Now me trying after a year or so is my choice but me not having a baby as of the moment is God’s choice and I wouldn’t want to question that—now coming to my IG and posting a comment on a pic that has nothing to do with that is hurtful. To even ask or shove it down my throat is unthinkable or doesn’t say much about you as a woman.”
Ending her piece, Heart said she is very happy with her life right now with or without a baby. She concluded, “I have a loving family, a home, a solid relationship with God. Contentment is what I have and that my dear is hard to achieve.”
Heart, who's married to Sorsogon governor Francis "Chiz" Escudero, announced that she was carrying twins back in May 2018, but one of the embryos was smaller and didn't properly develop. A few weeks later, it was followed by the unfortunate news of another miscarriage. "It’s not the end, just another chapter. I take comfort knowing that you’re up there with your twin," she later on shared on Instagram, further revealing that she wanted to name her unborn daughter Mira.