Do you prefer one long hug over a string of compliments? Swoon more over a bouquet of flowers rather than a grand gesture? Maybe you’re on the verge of discovering your primary love language!
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, there are five major ways to express and receive love, namely: acts of service, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time, and words of affirmation. While the concept may often be used for romantic relationships, approaching self-love with your love language definitely won’t hurt. If you’re ready to craft an ideal V-Day for yourself, take this free quiz to find out and read on.
5 ways to shower yourself with some love this Valentine's Day:
1. Acts of Service
Strong and independent with a weakness for people who go out of their way to help? Yep, that’s an Acts of Service gal right there. Actions speak louder than words for you, with green flags that include organizing, running errands, or simply making life easier.
Try: Planning the ideal Valentine’s dinner.
Even if you’re flying solo, you can still make your evening romantic by sipping fine wine and snacking on your charcuterie board, if you’re into that kind of thing. If you prefer to skip the prep time, do yourself a favor and order your faves ahead of time!
2. Physical Touch
This goes to the number one cuddlers we know! If you feel the most touched through simple gestures like hugging and holding hands, then physical touch is the surefire way to your heart.
Try: Treating yourself to the ultimate spa day.
Get that glow with a facial, mani-pedi, and massage, then cap it off with wearing the prettiest, comfiest clothes. Best day ever, we believe.
3. Receiving gifts
If this is your love language, it’s not about being materialistic—it’s the meaning behind the gift. Whether it's a 5-peso or a 5,000-peso item, the happiness it will bring gift-givers is priceless! Admit it: sometimes love comes in the form of a shiny new present.
Try: Checking out that item in your cart.
Need we say more? You deserve it! Just don’t go overboard with your budget.
4. Quality Time
Pure, undivided attention: the ultimate fantasy of a quality time person. Whatever idea of fun you have, as long as you’re diving into it distraction-free, then it is the sweetest escape.
Try: Having that staycation date you’ve always wanted.
Whether that’s an out-of-town villa, a fancy hotel, or a quiet neighborhood cafe, pack your totes and live your main character moment uninterrupted. Don’t forget to take pictures of your little adventure, too!
5. Words of Affirmation
Nothing says I love you more than saying it out loud, literally! If unexpected praises make you blush the most, then hearing, reading, and speaking words of affirmation give you life—and love.
Try: Writing a love letter to your future self.
Journaling might be your daily sanity pill, but give yourself a romantic little treat by sending a heartfelt message to you, from you. No hidden fees included.
Fun as it may seem to categorize our preferences, there’s nothing stopping you from mixing and matching the self-care habits that strike your fancy. Do whatever makes you feel special every day, because loving yourself shouldn’t be limited to Valentine’s.