“Success” is subjective. You know that you’re the only standard by which you can measure your sense of achievement. But staying on track of your career goals or embracing a new chapter in your life is not an easy road to be on, and you can use all the encouragement you can get to keep going and keep pushing.
On November 19, 2018, five out of Cream Silk’s 100 Ultimate Women sat down for Becoming Your Ultimate: Conversations with Ultimate Women, a Facebook Live event where these ladies shared their very own success stories. Meet the fab five:
Pia Wurtzbach, Miss Universe 2015 and ambassador for the United Nations program on HIV/AIDS in Asia and the Pacific
Rosenthal Tee, NYFW vet and fashion designer of ethereal bridal dresses
Sambie Rodriguez, avid fitness enthusiast and country manager of the exclusive active lifestyle tech startup GuavaPass
These women sat around a table and had an empowering conversation about just how much a woman can achieve when she sets her mind to it. Below, their nuggets of wisdom:
What’s your top tip to being more productive?
Rissa: I guess when it come to managing your time, you’re always juggling so many things, and if everything is number one on the list, you’ll really go bonkers. You have to know how to prioritize so things will make more sense to you.
Sambie: I’m usually up by 5 a.m. every day. That allows me to get in the right frame of mind. I’m also a big believer in checklists, so I love starting my day with a long list of stuff to do, and I feel super fulfilled every time I check one off—best feeling ever. It’s all about prioritizing, and time management definitely goes a long way. I think we all go through the phase where you learn nto not procrastinate, so I take that time in the morning to do all the things I don’t want to do first, and then let everything simmer down [after].
What keeps you motivated to reach your goals?
Jach: For me, I don’t want to settle, so I try to keep everything going. You can’t miss a chance. This is the only opportunity we have. What keeps me going also is my family, and I really, really want to help them. This is my way of giving back.
Rosenthal: I say that I’m stressed out all the time, but people always tell me I also somehow just ask for it. Without the work, I get so anxious just not doing anything—it really ticks me off. I think that keeps me motivated as a designer: What is the next idea or concept? What can I do better as a designer? And how can I empower women with my clothing?
How do you deal with negativity, pressure, and doubt?
Pia: Hindi siya nawawala. Before, when I was still competing and I wasn’t getting it, I got pressure from myself. Whenever I have people doubting me or stressing me out, I just have a way of using them as my fuel to do even better. When I hear them say, “‘Di mo kaya ‘yan,” or “No way this is going to happen for you,” I listen to that, and then I go to the gym. They tell me that I can’t do it, and then I train even more and I study harder. You have to use the negativity as fuel to keep going. Even now, the pressure’s still there, because there’s always the question “What’s next?” Hindi ako lumalaban, but in my head, I’m hearing it, I’m listening to it, and then I’m just doing my own preparation. As long as I’ve done the right steps in becoming better, that should be enough.
Sambie: That actually reminds me of a super awesome quote that I saw recently: “If you are captivated by purpose, you won’t be distracted by comparison.” Because if you’re completely captivated by what you’re doing and what you’re trying to do with your life, then you can’t really be bothered to compare yourself to other people. The truth of the matter is, there is space for everyone at the top.
What mantra inspires you to keep striving for your ultimate?
Pia: Something that I learned is that if you want something done in a certain way you have to do it yourself. Isarili mo ‘yan, ikaw lang ‘yan. Like, when you’re on stage, ikaw lang ‘yan. When you’re taking that test, ikaw lang ‘yan. Whatever it is that you want to achieve, it’s on you whether you want it badly enough or not.
Jach: I always think to myself, “You are in control of your own life.” I always get hateful comments also. But you should not let that affect you...pasok sa isang ear lang, labas sa kabila. [It’s] important you know for yourself that you are beautiful and you can do greater things than this. Kung may opportunity na ‘di para sa ‘yo, may mas malaki pa na darating (‘yon).”
Rosenthal: My personal mantra is that the most important voice you need to listen to, at the end of the day, is your own. I produce things on a daily basis that get judged by so many people, and being in a field that makes you vulnerable, you need to toughen up or thicken your skin. Realize internally that yours is the opinion that matters above everyone else’s. Some people might love or hate the last thing you did, but there’s always the next one to do. It’s just about moving forward, one step at a time.
Sambie: The best way to tell your future is to create it, and I think at the end of the day you just have to know and depend on yourself. If there’s anybody in the whole world who I can trust, it’s me—I can trust myself to take me places. And I think that goes a really long way, to be able to have that sense of self-belief.
Rissa: Whatever it is that you’re going through, I think the most important is transcending that difficult thing. It’s [about] going beyond; it shouldn’t be a roadblock—it should make you better. “The same fire that melts butter is the same fire that purifies gold.” That should remind us that no matter what we go though, we’re always going to turn out better.
See what else went down at Becoming Your Ultimate: Conversations with Ultimate Women, Cream Silk's Facebook Live event, in the video below:
Visualize, believe in yourself, chart your own path—just some ways to achieve your own version of success. For more inspiration from these power women, watch the full Facebook Live here.
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