For women everywhere, it seems as if there's just no escaping uncalled-for criticism, especially when it comes to our hair. The introduction of a slight or dramatic change in cut, color, or style is always met with a range of comments—negative remarks included.
Bisaya women are no strangers to negative feedback about their hair, too. And in case you're wondering how they clap back to the mean comments, here are some of their best responses. Take cues from these three ladies who prove that no harsh words about their hair can stop them from expressing their own style.
Loura Limjoco, 24, Iloilo
"Nag-umpisa ko color sang buhok ko sang third year high school. Daw gusto ko lang mag-mature ko lantawon. (I started coloring when I was in third-year high school because I wanted to look mature for my age.)
"I am morena, so a lot of people instantly had comments about how the color pairs with my skin tone. People said nasty stuff like, 'Mas nag itom ka lantawon!' (You look so tan, almost two shades darker!) and 'Indi bagay sayo!' (It doesn’t look good on you).
"At first, I became so self-conscious. But after a while, I learned to ignore all the comments and stop caring. Wala man ko may gin tapakan nga tawo sa pag-color sang buhok ko. Gin himu ko to para sa akon nga kaugalingon. (I did it for myself, anyway. I didn’t hurt anyone when I colored my hair so it’s not a bad thing.)"
Bea Rodriguez, 27, Bacolod
"I wasn't allowed to color my hair when I was still living with my parents, so when I finally moved out, I tried experimenting with different colors. Over the years, I grew to love lighter tones because they complement my skin tone very well. But mind you, not everyone approved!
"One time, I heard someone from my circle of friends say, 'Ka dry sang buhok mo, daw walis tinging' (Your hair is so dry, it looks like a broom). I immediately clapped back and answered 'Wala kamo labot! Buhok ko ni bay?' (Why should you care? It’s my hair!)"
RX Carzo, 26, Cebu
"Ni adto ko sa beach with some friends, ayun ga langoy langoy lang ko dapit dagat, dayun, kaning mga bata kay manglabay og bato sa ako-a! Nakadungog ko nagingon sila, 'Ngano ngana imong buhok?' (One time, I went to the beach with some friends and I was just swimming by the shore. Out of nowhere, some kids started throwing rocks at me! Then, I heard them say, 'Why is your hair like that?')
"Initially, my reaction was to get mad. Pero siyempre mga bata, gi-ignan na lang nako sila na ayaw mag labay og bato sa tawo kay bad na. (But of course, they’re kids so I just told them that it's wrong to judge others based on appearances.)"
Receiving negative comments about our hair may sometimes catch us off guard or may even take a toll on our self-esteem, but as these women show, it's time we stand up and prove that words won't break our confidence. It's precisely the message of Dove's campaign #MyHairMySay, which empowers Filipinas all over the country to express themselves through their hair regardless of what others have to say.